(Versión en castellano)

Friends

I rather gave use to electronic mail until I migrated to Spain where I thought it'd allow me to contact my loved ones, but reality punched me again in the face as it has been doing since my childhood, when who I thought was my best friend began to pass by without noticing me overnight.  Despite consciousness, abstraction and other juggling acts it's allegedly capable of, human mind is as flat and simple as those of the rest of creatures, merely functional at basic survival level and no much more, it doesn't matter how much time or the circumstances under they had to live with you, whether it's family, a friend, an acquaintance, half a month without seeing your face is enough to them bury you alive.  You could, at least, play to be Tarzan if it weren't for their basic survival instinct has been highly manipulated.

There are those who say people are multinational's cattle, I'd better just say “people are cattle,” to not fall in the common place of blaming the powerful about everything, that's another understandable cattle's habit (as well as revolutionary's.)

Along my life I've met some individuals who, judging by the way they behaved, appeared to be exceptions to that rule.  They, obviously, caught my attention and, in some cases, my consideration.  That's how I learned you can't judge people by what they say or do, you need to know their intention and, more importantly, their motivation.  Of course, to get to know others motivations, specially the deeper ones, is a one-way ticket, hence it's not wise to make final conclusions about anyone.  We can presume, however, that when we find out that some individual's motivation isn't personal, authentic or deep enough, chances are he doesn't deserve the credit his deeds had given him.  About the “rule”: someone moved by pure vanity can't be immune to the systematic domestication we're all subdue today.

Well, I still have the friends I've found in books.

The way people disappoint you is just the surface of the main problem, their lack of interest.  It means a problem because their lack of interest is not punctual, as I insinuated in other writings of mine, all what's wrong with mankind can be reduced to a single sentence: people are not truly interested in anything.

Unknown feelings for them, they mistake respect for fear, trust for credulity, confidence and self-esteem for pride or arrogance; it's the lack of these foundations the origin of their apathy.  This makes of them docile animals, there's no need to beat them with a stick anymore, just a bit of advertising and they go to their cage to eat feed by themselves, or to give their lives in a war against an enemy of the system.

Don't let appearances deceive you, the kind of interest I'm talking about is not evident, in most cases it's very well disguised, they even created the argument of “optimism” exclusively for this purpose.  You may see many of them very enthusiastic, in fact they put lots of energy and hard work in what the media sells them as values.  Moreover, they'll accuse you of disrespectful and inconsiderate if you don't share their enthusiasm for the latest trends.  You'll may see them progressing in what to a injected values respect (at least those living in the appropriate half of the world,) however their lack of an honest life plan and goals becomes evident in how they totally neglect matters that mean a priority for everyone, their immediate environment, mainly their relationship with their loved ones and with themselves as a person and the environment in general, since it obviously affects them and their families (and we all) in terms of health and quality of life.

Among the most evident symptoms perhaps the main is that most of those who live in “developed” countries have a roof, which they may share with a partner or children, but you'll rarely feel the warmth of an authentic “home” in their places.  Another is the role of friendship in their lives, they're not interested at all in the human relation itself, it has to favor some activity that implies consumerism to be considered worth of their time.  Today it's not the coffee, the beer or the movie, it's the friend the excuse, just because the fear of being seen as loosers if they go out alone, and one friend is not enough to attend a concert or a nightclub, in this cases you need a group (what implies more consumtion.)  Originally, music was one with its mother, the dance, as part of the leisure environment where people used to meet each other, today instead, music is a bunch of bits in a mp3 player that people carry with headphones to isolate themselves from the world around, the same can be said about nightclubs where the loud music, lights and smoke sabotage any attempt of dialog.  People consume music and go to a nightclub to consume, friends play the same role as the trade mark logo in the trendy clothes they already paid for.

Reasons for which it's imperative to reduce consumption are of public knowledge, however people consume more every day.  New generations, grown up in this environment where authentic human relations more than devalued are absent, will consume even more and in a more idiotic way, trying to fill that bottomless hole that is the lack of a true, sane affective component in their lives.

Those who insist in feigning, feel free to call me a pessimist.


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©2019 - Walter Alejandro Iglesias



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